Wedding rules and traditions existed in the old days because that is how people did it years ago. There was a certain order to things and they had their ideas of what should and should not be done. Our mothers and grandmothers followed the traditions handed down to them by their elders.
However, modern couples want to break away from the rigid restrictions and do things their own way ( personalization ). The old rule of a bride having to wear white is simply outdated and no longer applies. Read on to find out why these wedding rules are no longer relevant in today’s society and check out our other pages for more helpful wedding planning tips and suggestions.
This is another rule that pertained to a long-gone era. If a bride wore white she was perceived to be pure and chaste, in other words, a virgin. That was highly sought by men in those days. But, times have changed and women are owning their own power and sexuality so she is not expected to uphold this outdated practice. Plus, some people are on their second or third marriages and it’s no longer relevant. Wear white if you like the look, or change it up and blaze a trail in chiffon green . This is the day you have been dreaming of so you get to wear what you want.
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2. The Old “Only 8 Bridesmaids” Rule
Back in the 1950s we didn’t have extended families like we do now. Having only a certain number of bridesmaids kept the wedding party small and contained. It is one of those rules that doesn’t serve a purpose anymore since couples have bigger families with several sisters, aunts, and besties. Have as many bridesmaids as you choose. 8, 10, or 12, or, you don't have to have any, it's totally up to you.
3. Things at the Reception Being in a Certain Order
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Who says you have to take photos right after the ceremony? What if you want to cut the cake and have dessert before dinner? Your timeline can be flexible so you can switch things around if you want to. One of the best things about having a wedding is that you get to say what happens and when. You can do things in any order you choose because it is your day and you’re in charge!
4. Giving Everyone a “Plus One”
In the past, it was sort of expected that you give guests a complimentary “Plus One” invitation. Back then people had smaller weddings because it was not the big social event that it is now. You could fit everyone in one room so an extra guest or two wasn’t as much of a big deal. However, since today’s couples are more independent and often pay for the wedding out of their savings, it is more prudent to limit extra guests due to budget restraints. This post gives suggestions on who you should give a “Plus One.”
5. You Have to Toss the Bouquet
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There are a couple of different stories about the bouquet toss. In one version it was to distract the crowd so the bride to make a hasty getaway. In the second version, the tossing of the bouquet was for good luck and whoever catches is supposed to be the next one to get married. Most people tend to go off the second explanation and the reason this rule no longer exists... More and brides are choosing not to so tossing of the bouquet is not so popular as before.
Why Wedding Rules Don’t Exist Final thoughts What do you think about wedding rules? Did you follow any or did you do your own thing? Let us know in the comments below. We’d love to hear what worked for you or any suggestions you may have for other brides-to-be.
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About the author: Keren Michele, CEP, leads the planning team at K’Mich Event Planning & Consulting. With a flair for creativity in organizing one-of-a-kind weddings and events, she is passionate about providing valuable ideas for couples as they plan their special day.
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