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Why Wedding Rules Don't Exist

Wedding rules and traditions exist because that is how people did it years ago and it continue to present - wedding ideas blog - wedding services and wedding planning tips by K'Mich Weddings in Philadelphia PA

Why These Rules No Longer Exist

Wedding rules and traditions existed in the old days because that is how people did it years ago. There was a certain order to things and they had their ideas of what should and should not be done.  Our mothers and grandmothers followed the traditions handed down to them by their elders. 

However, modern couples want to break away from the rigid restrictions and do things their own way ( personalization ). 

The old rule of a bride having to wear white is simply outdated and no longer applies. Read on to find out why these wedding rules are no longer relevant in today’s society and check out our other pages for more helpful wedding planning tips and suggestions.

This another rule that pertained to a long-gone era - wedding ideas blog - wedding services and wedding planning tips by K'Mich Weddings in Philadelphia PA
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This is another rule that pertained to a long-gone era. If a bride wore white she was perceived to be pure and chaste, in other words, a virgin. That was highly sought by men in those days. But, times have changed and women are owning their own power and sexuality so she is not expected to uphold this outdated practice. Plus, some people are on their second or third marriages and it’s no longer relevant. Wear white if you like the look , or change it up and blaze a trail in chiffon green . This is the day you have been dreaming of so you get to wear what you want.

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2. The Old “Only 8 Bridesmaids” Rule

Back in the 1950s we didn’t have extended families like we do now. Having only a certain number of bridesmaids kept the wedding party small and contained. It is one of those rules that doesn’t serve a purpose anymore since couples have bigger families with several sisters, aunts, and besties. Have as many bridesmaids as you choose. 8, 10, or 12, or, you don't have to have any , it's totally up to you.

3. Things at the Reception Being in a Certain Order

Who says you have to take photos right after the ceremony? What if you want to cut the cake and have dessert before dinner? - wedding ideas blog - wedding services and wedding planning tips by K'Mich Weddings in Philadelphia PA
Who says you have to take photos right after the ceremony? What if you want to cut the cake and have dessert before dinner? Your timeline can be flexible so you can switch things around if you want to. One of the best things about having a wedding is that you get to say what happens and when. You can do things in any order you choose because it is your day and you’re in charge!

4. Giving Everyone a “Plus One”

In the past, it was sort of expected that you give guests a complimentary “Plus One” invitation. Back then people had smaller weddings because it was not the big social event that it is now. You could fit everyone in one room so an extra guest or two wasn’t as much of a big deal. However, since today’s couples are more independent and often pay for the wedding out of their savings, it is more prudent to limit extra guests due to budget restraints. This post gives suggestions on who you should give a “Plus One.”

5. You Have to Toss the Bouquet

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There are a couple of different stories about the bouquet toss. In one version it was to distract the crowd so the bride to make a hasty getaway. In the second version, the tossing of the bouquet was for good luck and whoever catches is supposed to be the next one to get married. Most people tend to go off the second explanation and the reason this rule no longer exists...  More and brides are choosing not to so tossing of the bouquet is not so popular as before.

Why Wedding Rules Don’t Exist 
Final thoughts
What do you think about wedding rules? Did you follow any or did you do your own thing? Let us know in the comments below. We’d love to hear what worked for you or any suggestions you may have for other brides-to-be. For more creative wedding coordinaion ideas , check out our other posts and subscribe to our email list and follow us on Pinterest.
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  1. It's nice that people can have weddings their way. I never liked the bouquet toss when I was single, so I didn't have one at my wedding. #MMBC

    1. We think it's a great idea for couples to have the wedding they want and not worry about traditions.Thanks for sharing your thoughts and congrats on your wedding and doing it your way, #MMBC!

  2. I think it is best to do what you love and will remember it being even more special for doing as you wanted :) Thanks for sharing at Creative Mondays.

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    2. Thanks for visiting and checking out the blog.

  3. I got married once. ONCE!

  4. I am all for doing what makes you happy at your wedding! It is your special day. Want to wear red or pink or orange or leopard print, go for it. Want to celebrate at McDonald’s because that is what kind of budget you have and you love Chicken McNuggets, have at it. Want to elope with just two friends as witnesses, enjoy the beauty of the intimacy. We do live in a generation when we absolutely do not have to stick to antiquated rules and expectations. Great post! Thanks for sharing and linking up.


    1. So true. Your wedding your way. Thanks for sharing, Shelbee

  5. we skipped the bouquet toss and a few other things that we felt like were just wastes of time that nobody really cared about. Its always a bit of a let down when people are partying and then have to stop for something silly like that #anythinggoes

    1. Congrats. Good for you... You did what made you happy on your day Thanks for sharing.

  6. No rules, follow your heart's desire and do your wedding your way! Thanks so much for linking up with me at my #UnlimitedMonthlyLinkParty 9 where all entries are shared on social media if share option is available, open February 1 to 26.

    1. We agree. Your wedding your way. Thanks for sharing


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