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How to Know Whether or Not You Are Ready to Get Engaged

13 Signs Letting You Know That You Are Ready To Get Engaged

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Getting engaged is one of the most joyful and happiest moments you will experience in your life. It’s a time to celebrate the fact that you found your ideal partner! Many of you will feel quite a bit of pressure from the outside world as your relationship reach a certain point, leaving you feeling like you must rush to do this. Yea, you’ve been dating for a few years and possibly living together for a few more, you might think it’s time for you to start this third and life-changing chapter in your book.

"When are you getting engaged or when are you going to get married...?"

With all the noise from your families, and maybe a few of your friends, who may be asking “when are you getting engaged?” or “when are you going to get married and give me some grandbabies?” Or, you may have friends around you who are already married with babies and you think it’s time for you to do the same. These questions may even have you asking yourself “is engagement on my horizon?”

The decision, however, to get engaged/married should never be subliminally inspired by outside pressures. Your decisions should be made based on how you feel about each other... It should be out of a shared desire of wanting to be together and creating a life that you both will enjoy. So, before making that move, it’s best to step back and do some deep soul searching to see if this is the move you should make.

We created a checklist that can you use as a marker to decide whether this is the right time for you to get engaged.

What are your telltale signs?

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1. COMMUNICATION
How often do you really talk to each other? Not passing a message or asking a question… really having a heart to heart.
2. PATIENCE
How are you at dealing with each other in the same space?
3. AUTHENTICITY
Do you feel seen or heard for who you are in the relationship?
4. LOVE 
Do you really love this person? Considering their flaws and quirks, as well as their strengths.
5. VISION
Do you have compatible goals for work, fun, family?
 
Related: (previous posts) Is Premarital Counseling Right For Us?

6. FLEXIBILITY
Are you willing to try new things to improve the relationship? Are you willing to compromise and see what’s important?
7. OPENNESS
Are you willing to accept that relationships take time and work? Are you willing to work at the relationship through inevitable rough patches?
8. HONESTY
Are you completely honest and transparent?
9. COMMITMENT
Do you both follow through with what you say?
10. FRIENDSHIP
Do you share a deep friendship and kinship?
11. COMPASSION
Would you do anything for the other?
12. AVAILABLE
How available are you for each other? Are you really there for each other?
13. LIFE GOALS

 The checklist is intended to 
 give you a few things 
 to think about as all the questions...

What are your life goals? Do you both share the same views? Are you willing to meet in the middle?

Most of the questions in the checklist are yes or no and hopefully, you answered yes to all of them. If you did not, do not fret, do not make any hasty decisions, and end the relationship. The checklist is intended to give you a few things to think about as all the questions are very important to a strong and healthy relationship. The pillars listed above will be tested in every marriage, but a strong foundation early on is the key to success.

Related: (previous post) 11 Things to Do After You Get Engaged! | What To Do if You Don't Like Your Engagement Ring

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20 comments:

  1. Too often people get married for the wrong reasons. I like what you said about accepting one another, including the good and the bad and being transparent. Too many people act like one person when they're dating and once their married they feel free to be who they really are. We need to be open and honest from the beginning. I would add that it's important to share common spiritual beliefs, too. We think that doesn't matter but it's such an important part of life that it will sooner or later. There is a good book by Family Life called Preparing for Marriage. It helps couples really talk about things they might not otherwise.

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    1. Absolutely. We had a guest blogger share her tips on marriage and suggestions of a few books to read (the one you mentioned might be one of them) to get you ready for the next step. Thanks for sharing and stopping by, Reidland Family.

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  2. These are such wonderful and important things to consider before making such a huge commitment to one another. So many enter into marriage without considering the impact of this major life milestone and it all too often ends badly. Thanks for sharing!

    Shelbee
    www.shelbeeontheedge.com

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    1. So true. We actually have a follow up article to this asking the question " Is Pre-Marital Counseling Right For Me?" We think this should start after the engagement or even before to make sure that this is the next step. Thanks for sharing and stopping by, Shelbee

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  3. This article is funny to me because my husband and I never got engaged. I know, weird but true. We had been together for 8 years and getting married was a foregone conclusion for us. It actually just got to the point where we wanted to buy a house and start a family and so we eloped in Vegas. Lol.
    Carla
    www.teachinstyle.com

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    1. Hi Carla,

      Thanks for sharing your story. Your decision makes sense. You both were on the same page and wanted the same things and went after it the way you found comfortable. There is nothing wrong with eloping, as you can see it's turning into a service in different states, as long as you both are happy that's what counts. Again, thanks for sharing and stopping by.

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  4. When I got engaged aged 18, my Dad told me that I wasn't old enough to know my own mind, I ignored the advice, maybe he had a point as 9 years later we got divorced #alittlebit of everything,@_karendennis

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    1. "Father's knows best". Sorry to hear that. Hope everything is okay, now. Thanks for sharing.

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  5. Gosh what great tips- thanks for linking up with us!

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  6. Lots to think about before you get engaged and tie the knot later. I pinned this! Thanks so much for linking up with me at my #AThemedLinkup 10 for All Things Love and Valentine’s Day, open until February 10.

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  7. wow, what a list! so many things to consider. When we were young, we thought we had all the right answers and everything checked off that important list. It wasn't long before we still had a lot to learn, but our commitment to our marriage and to one another has carried us through.

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  8. My best advice is this; don't get engaged or spend any money on a wedding until you complete premarital counseling to make sure you are both on the same page. Most people get engaged then do premarital counseling and by that point, it's too late to back out. Well actually, it's never too late to back out, however, most don't have the courage to do so once an engagement ring is on the finger and other monies have been spent.

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    1. We do agree. We think pre-marital counseling should be done before any thoughts of engagement..Going this route will prevent any last minute jitters or change of minds. Thanks for sharing.

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  9. These are great questions to ask and ponder prior to getting engaged to someone. Marriage is not something a person should take lightly. I made that mistake and regret it horribly, but one can't change their past. All we can do is share our knowledge and hope someone learns from our mistakes.

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    1. Sorry to hear that, Crystal. We wish you all the best in your next relationship. Thanks for sharing.

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  10. Great list! Pinned to my relationships board :).

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    1. Hi Anita,

      Thanks for visiting and sharing this post.

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